Thursday with 1,604 notes / reblog

lumos5001:

howellartthou:

I’ve always been told not to give in to peer pressure but I’ve never been told not to pressure my peers and I think that shows how dysfunctional society is

real life plot hole found

(via promiscuous-princess)

"A few months back, I was asked to participate in a debate on the topic of whether men should have to pay on dates. (I was “the feminist.”) It turned out that the male debater and I didn’t really disagree much on that topic. I said that, generally, whoever asks the other person out pays for that date, and then at some point couples generally transition into sharing costs in whatever way works for them. He was actually pretty happy to pay for first dates; he just wanted women to say thank you and to not use him. I had no problem with that.

I think he said that women should offer to pay half, knowing they’ll probably be turned down. I said, well, sometimes — but what if the other person invited you someplace really expensive? What if you agreed to a date with the guy and he spent an hour saying crazy racist shit to you and you felt like you couldn’t escape? This is what led to our real disagreement.

The male debater felt strongly that if a woman wasn’t interested in a second date, she should say so on the spot. If the man says, “Let’s do this again sometime,” the woman shouldn’t say, “Sure, great,” and then back out later. I said that that was a nice ideal, but that he should keep in mind that most women spent most of their lives living in low-level fear of physical aggression from men. I think about avoiding rape (or other violence) every time I walk home from the subway, every time there’s an unexpected knock at the door, and certainly every time I piss off an unhinged man. So, if I were on a date with a man who I felt was unbalanced, creepy, overly aggressive, or possibly violent, and he asked if I wanted to “do this again sometime,” I would say whatever I felt would avoid conflict. And then I would leave, wait awhile, and hope that letting him down politely a few days later would avoid his finding me and turning my skin into an overcoat.

The male debater was furious that I had even brought this up. He felt that the threat of violence against women was irrelevant, and that I was playing some kind of “rape card” as a debate trick. He got angrier and angrier as we argued. I also got angrier and angrier, although I worked hard to keep speaking in a calm and considered way. He was shouting and cutting me off when I tried to speak. I pointed out that the debater himself was displaying exactly the sort of behavior that would make me very uncomfortable on a date. THAT made him livid.

He then called me “passive-aggressive.”

I was genuinely taken aback. “Actually,” I said, “I call this ‘behaving myself.’” It’s a lot of work to stay calm when you’re just as furious as the other person, and that other person is shouting at you. I felt that I was acting like a grownup — at some emotional cost to myself — and I wanted credit, not insults, for being able to speak in a normal tone of voice when I was having to explain things like, “We can’t tell who the rapists are before they turn violent, so sometimes we have to be cautious with men who do not intend to harm us.”"
Bullish Life: When Men Get Too Emotional To Have A Rational Argument (via brutereason)

(via idle-odysseus)

blk0912:

boredandmoist:

This time last year I was unemployed, broke, and suicidal.

Today, I just got the keys to my first house.

Give it time.

Needed this today

(via infjconfessions)

Wednesday with 3,286 notes / reblog
likearegularbookworm:

FIRST EDITION SIGNED BY FITZGERALD HIMSELF I HELD IT IN MY HANDS AND MY BREATH
Monday with 25,810 notes / reblog
muslimfeminist:

antiporn-activist:

Wish i could claim responsibility for this.

here’s a petition urging the NHS to remove this petition, go sign it
evanthegingah said: If you could explain to me why you are so passionate about feminism in a non biased way that would be awesome. Please get back to me asap. Thanks.

misandry-mermaid:

I’m a woman.

Anonymous said: it sounds so fucking arrogant when you call yourself pretty like that lmao

unwinona:

kateordie:

divinedorothy:

But I am pretty look at me im so pretty it’s not arrogance when it’s literally just a fact im so pretty

image

SO PRETTY!!!!! ME!!! IM PRETTY!!! IM A PRETTY PRETTY GIRL!!!! 

I like this.

If a man tells you you’re pretty, it’s supposed to be this amazing gift you cherish forever.

If you tell a man you’re pretty, you’re a horrible, shallow, awful person and it isn’t true.

Tuesday with 43,716 notes / reblog
cutebabe:

creepy-spice:

Sorry to interrupt the Robin Williams posts but I feel like this needs to be shared. The adult film star Christy Mack has been hospitalized after being severely beaten by former boyfriend/MMA Fighter, Jonathan Koppenhaver aka “War Machine”. She sustained injuries such as 18 broken bones in her face, broken nose, multiple teeth knocked out, a fractured rib, ruptured liver and no use of her left leg. He also cut most of her hair off with a dull knife and cut her several different times and attempted to rape her. Thank god she was able to get out of the house and have a neighbor help her and take her to the hospital. Christy said he has beaten her several times in the past but never this bad. On his twitter he referred to her as “his property and always will be” if that’s not the talk of a complete psycho I don’t know what is. This is never okay. Being someone who has seen and been around horrible situations like this my heart goes out to her and hopes she makes a speedy recovery. There is a fundraiser to help pay for her hospital/surgery/recovery expenses that you can go to here: https://www.giveforward.com/fundraiser/qcd5/christy-mack-s-medical-expense-fund

if there is one thing in this world that fuels a raging fire in me that could fucking make me feel like i could LITERALLY get arrested for man slaughter, its the abuse of women. signal boost the fuck out of this. countless women go through this every single day and no one does shit about it. im fucking sick and tired of seeing my sisters get beaten half to death because of men. im fucking sick and tired of men thinking that we are their property. im fucking sick and tired of being dehumanized and fucking objectified and silenced. and im sick and fucking tired of my sisters being murdered at the hands of misogynists. when will this end? its so hard to not feel fucking defeated sometimes. 

bombing:

fun drinking game: take a shot of water every couple hours to make sure you’re healthy and hydrated

(via evil-killjoy)

"Because lying to your kids about sex helps nobody. Telling them that sex is “only between mommies and daddies” is a lie that leads to confused, hormone charged teenagers. Telling them that sex is “only something that happens when two people love each other very much” is a lie that causes hormone charged teenagers to confuse “love” with “lust,” or “obsession.” It leads to leaps of logic like, “If I have sex with them, we must be in love.” Or worse- “If I love them, I have to have sex with them.” And how many teenage tragedies are based on that misconception?"
Lea Grover, "We Don’t Play With Our Vulvas At The Table" (via themindislimitless)

(via feministcatlady)

Sunday with 358 notes / reblog